The Patriarchy

Confronting the Misandropologists

May 08, 2017

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Confronting the Misandropologists

World-renowned space-traveler and recording artist William Shatner upset wide swaths of the progressive sci-fi nerd community last week when he dared to allege that women sometimes hate men.

Writing on Twitter—which, for better or worse, is the closest the public has to an agora these days—Shatner was responding to some foo-foo pseudo-academic essay regarding what Star Trek’s Captain Kirk character can teach us about gender equality in a postmodern/post-gender society, or something like that, because I have to confess I didn’t read the article and would frankly rather have long knitting needles shoved forcefully through my ears than ever have to read, or even ponder the existence of, such an article again. Apparently the term “toxic masculinity” reared its stinky head in the article, to which Shatner responded:

Feminism is great but terms like toxic masculinity are degrading. It borders on that imaginary concept to feminists: misandry.

This toxic idea that Shatner shat out chafed the ample thighs of one Mari Brighe, a dude who thinks he’s a woman and who’s pursuing a career agitating for the imaginary “rights” that he imagines are being denied to the people who share his delusion. Mari—again, a white dude who for some reason has taken it upon himself to speak for white and nonwhite women against white-male pathologies—denied that “misandry” even exists:

“Feminism is great except that part where it criticized men.”

“Misandry is real, and those who seek to deny or justify it deserve a stern paddling.”

“Misandry is about as real as Klingons, Bill.”

All things being equal, I would say the idea that Mari Brighe is a woman is roughly as real as Klingons. On the other hand, I think “misandry”—a generalized hatred for and/or disparagement of males as a group—is as real as testicle cancer. Brighe also called misandry a “myth”:

Misogyny is a systemic violence that kills & oppresses women. ‘Misandry’ is a myth derived from men’s hurt feelings. #MasculinitySoFragile

Again, I’ll get called all manner of naughty names for noticing this, but I would say that despite William Shatner’s infamous slimming girdles and his multi-decade use of reality-defying toupees, his masculinity might be a little less fragile than that of a dude who insists he’s a chick.

On a girls-writing-for-girls website called The Mary Sue, a certain Teresa Jusino—who, according to false rumors, once auditioned to play a planet in a Star Trek movie—lamented that Shatner’s comments were “disappointingly sexist” because as everyone except the rape apologists knows, women can’t be hateful toward men, but even if they can, the men and the patriarchal structure that supports them deserve all the hate they have coming, and more. The huge-in-every-way supporter of women’s rights compared allegations of “misandry” to the idea of “reverse racism,” which, as everyone except rapists and KKK members will admit, doesn’t exist.
When another Twitter user noted that he’d never seen a feminist say anything positive about masculinity, Shatner countered:

I disagree. The original feminist movement was about equality. Somewhere along the line a few decided differently. They are the exceptions.

I agree with the first part of that statement. But poisoned by the evil demon elixir testosterone, I vehemently lash out in the most masculine manner possible to disagree with the latter sentiment—in modern feminism, the man-haters are no longer the exception. They are the rule.

So what happened?

Christina Hoff Sommers was the first person to my knowledge who acted as a cartographer to map out the forked road that feminism eventually took between pushing for equal rights and pushing men off of cliffs. She describes an ideological schism between “equity feminism” (the “equal rights” kind) and “gender feminism” (the “kill all men” kind). She says that gender feminism started in the 1960s and was rooted in Marxism, which has a psychotic and insatiable need to make EVERYTHING political. If one were temporarily distracted by a fly buzzing overhead, one could have blinked before “women should receive equal pay” gave way to woolly mammoths such as Andrea Dworkin declaring unequivocally that all intercourse is rape.

And in the same manner that many white people who initially signed on to the whole “don’t be a racist” program because it seemed fair were eventually alienated by the escalating rhetoric of “justice won’t be achieved until the last evil melanoma-prone ice devil baby is smashed dead against a rock,” many men—and even women—who had no problem with ideas such as equal pay and female suffrage started to get grossly turned off by rhetoric and policies that viewed being born male as an original sin that demanded eternal punishment.

Even though black women live longer than white men in the USA…and even though women control more disposable wealth than men do…and even though women are snagging most of the college degrees these days…and even though the law and public sympathy heavily lean toward women in any dispute between the sexes…and even though the media portray men as either bumbling incompetents or bloodthirsty rape-monsters…and even though men are far more likely to commit suicide, die on the job, or be homeless than women…we’re still lectured by these bitter fat blobs and their testosterone-free male enablers that misandry isn’t real because men still benefit from certain mysterious “systemic” and “institutional” advantages that none of these assholes seem able to enumerate even when calmly asked to do so.

It’s a funny sort of “patriarchy” we inhabit.

To allege that women are capable of malice and violence and deception is only to allege that they’re human. To expect anything less of them would be dehumanizing and patronizing—which, ironically, shares a root word with “patriarchy.” When feminism ditched the “equity” rhetoric in favor of a menses-splattered pagan goddess religion that depicts men as irredeemable worker drones and women as innocent angels, men who weren’t entirely asleep or pussy-whipped realized that the rules had changed and that they were under attack. But even to notice that a lot of women openly exult in hating men gets you labeled a “woman-hater.”

Misandry is real, and those who seek to deny or justify it deserve a stern paddling. And even if you acknowledge that it’s real, don’t try to make excuses for it using some postmodern gobbledygook, because then you become a misandry apologist—a misandropologist. Just admit that women can be every bit as mean, nasty, horrid, foul, vile, shitty, and hateful as men. It’s part of the human condition.

Naïve as it may be, I envision an enlightened future where there is no longer any misogyny or misandry—only a beautiful, sweet, shared sense of misanthropy.

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